When Your Soulmate Dies
Grief as a quest I often talk about grief as a journey through the wilderness. It is dangerous and lonely. It can be cold and dark. Grievers often feel lost there for a long, long time. You probably recognize this metaphor of the wilderness of grief. Since your soulmate died, I imagine you, too, have […]
Embracing the Sadness of Grief
Why is embracing grief necessary? Why does the emotion we call sadness have to exist at all? Couldn’t we just move from loss to shock to acceptance without all that pain in the middle? The answer is that sadness plays an essential role. It forces us to regroup—physically, cognitively, emotionally, socially, and spiritually. When we […]
Healing Your Grief About Aging
We worship the idea of perpetual youth, so we struggle against the passage into becoming a “senior citizen.” The huge anti-aging trend reinforces the idea that growing old is to be avoided at all costs—and cost it does! Healing your grief about aging is a journey. At our fingertips, we now have Botox shots that […]
Healing Grief During the Holiday Season
Love Does Not End With Death Since love does not end with death, holidays may result in a renewed sense of personal grief-a feeling of loss unlike that experienced in the routine of daily living. Society encourages you to join in the holiday spirit, but all around you the sounds, sights and smells trigger memories […]
Healing When Your Baby Dies
Allow Yourself to Mourn Whatever the circumstances of your baby’s death, you will need to share your grief outside of yourself. Whether you were pregnant for a brief time or many months, delivered a stillborn baby or your baby lived for a longer time, you have every right to grieve. The death of your baby […]
Healing From a Parent Death
Realize All Grief from a Parent Death is Unique Your grief is unique. No one grieves in exactly the same way. Your particular experience will be influenced by the type of relationship you had with your parent, the circumstances surrounding the death, your emotional support system and your cultural and religious background. As a result, […]
Helping Yourself Heal When Your Child Dies
Allow Yourself to Mourn Your child has died. You are now faced with the difficult, but important, need to mourn. Mourning is the open expression of your thoughts and feelings regarding the death of your child. It is an essential part of healing. With the death of your child, your hopes, dreams and plans for […]
Helping Yourself Heal When Your Spouse Dies
Allow Yourself to Mourn Your husband or wife has died. This was your companion, the person you shared your life with. If right now you are not sure of who you are, and you feel confused, that is appropriate because you have lost a part of yourself. When you experience the death of someone you […]
Befriending Your Feelings
The purpose of mourning is to allow feelings to move through you in ways that integrate them into your life. To integrate grief into your life requires that you be touched by what you experience. When you cannot feel a feeling, you are closed in your ability to use it or be changed by it, […]
Healing When Someone Loved Dies
Someone You Love Has Died You are now faced with the difficult, but important, need to mourn. Mourning is the open expression of your thoughts and feelings regarding the death and the person who has died. It is an essential part of healing. You are beginning a journey that is often frightening, painful, overwhelming, and […]
